Surround yourself with goodness, Sista.

As I reflect on topics for the blog, I try to gather and pull inspiration from my own personal life.

A topic that has been present for me lately is the importance of female friendships – the importance of who we surround ourselves with and how those relationships affect our lives.

I like to think of my friends as sisters. I have a sister and she can never be replaced, but holding my girlfriends as “sisters” helps me to recognize that we are part of something greater than ourselves: a sisterhood where we do our best to hold each other up.

For me personally, these positive relationships feed my soul, inspire and empower me and this is crucial for my existence. I recently re-listened to a conversation on “The next generation of women” between former First Lady Michelle Obama and my ultimate female inspiration, Oprah Winfrey.

There were so many nuggets of wisdom in this interview that I had missed the first time around - Michelle said something that truly resonated with me: “Surround yourself with goodness”.

I have come to realize that when we are determined to do our inner work, when we know our own worth and value, then we give off a certain energetic vibration and in return we attract likeminded people. We reap what we sow.

It’s our obligation – and privilege – to find those people, and make room for those positive connections that are of true value to our mutual existence and wellbeing.

All relationships are different. As an adult I have really come to understand and treasure the diversity of my female friendships and I love how every single friendship and connection serve me in different ways. In return, I also know that I fulfill a variety of roles for my friends.

Surround yourself with goodness, be the best sister you can be for others.

Expect nothing less in return.